Reshaping Identities: Amputees Redefining Self and Society
As humans, we are constantly growing and changing. What defines us can shift as we experience all that life throws at us and how we choose to deal with the lemons. Amputation challenges not only the physical body but also the very essence of one's identity. I am constantly in awe of how so many in the limbloss community have not settled for just surviving and have actually thrived in their new bodies, empowered others to do the same, and broken barriers along the way.
Breaking the Stigma-The stigma of disability can make it difficult to break free from social stereotypes when the world expects you to just be thankful to be alive and let go of any dreams for greatness. Why push your body to the limits of competitive sports or work towards a high-powered career if you are not able-bodied? The real question, of course, is why not? It's people who go beyond what society expects of them and those who bring awareness to disabilities and minority groups that create real change and pave the way for a more inclusive environment.
Body and Mind-Nurturing both your physical and mental health is where healing starts and continues throughout the life cycle of an amputee. Listening to your body when it tells you to take a break or pulls out a red flag is crucial to living your best limb loss life. Amputees are more prone to skin infections and even sepsis, so extra care must be taken on a daily basis to prevent these complications. Something as simple as a daily cleaning routine for your prosthetic liner can help nurture your physical health and keep you on the move. I see all of these extra steps as self-care for my residual limb, and without them, I would spend way more time at the Doctor's office than I care to. After amputation I kept my feelings locked up for a long time. Only releasing them on this blog. Many amputees are so concerned with looking strong that they don't want to share or feel like a burden to their loved ones. Or worst, they don't think anyone will understand them, as the limb loss experience is so unique. Finding a safe place to openly share your thoughts, no matter how dark they may be at times, is the single most healing thing one can do—more than any bandage or ointment. The act of opening up your soul for the purpose of lifting heavy emotions from it is how you move forward with peace and acceptance.
Adaptive Living- Embracing your new reality can be a tough pill to swallow after limb loss. Creating an adaptive space and using accommodations at home and in the workplace can give you back the sense of independence you often miss after surgery. For me, crutches and a shower chair meant I could move around as I wanted post-surgery, and it was one thing I had control over during a time when I felt like everything was so uncertain.
There is no right or wrong way to feel after limb loss. Finding your sense of self and holding on tight to who you are can feel like the taste of freedom you need from society's over-opinionated comments on who you are and how much you should be able to achieve. You aren't who they think you are. You are so much more than that, and there is no limit to what you can do if you decide to make it so. Break the stigma, heal your body and mind, and make the world adapt to you. ;)
